What is Your True Calling?
What is Your True Calling?
In today’s blog I pick up a question that’s a deep one and fits with quite a few conversations I’ve been having over the past few weeks. The question of our true calling is perhaps the most important question you will ever have to answer. And perhaps one of the most difficult. Over the past few weeks clients and inspirational women I’ve been meeting are sharing and asking me a range of questions on this very topic:
- I feel as though thisisn’t it. That I’m on a bit of a hamster wheel. I kind of know that there is something more I want to do, but I don’t know what. Is this normal?
- I know that I have more to give and contribute but I’m not sure where to even start?
- I think, in my heart, that it’s a change in direction. To be honest it’s a scary thought to think about what I might give up if I do make a change.
I absolutely believe we all have a calling. I believe we all have unique gifts and talents that are meant to be shared with the world. And I also believe that when we sit back and listen, our intuition is calling and nudging us to live to our fullest potential.
It’s often hard to describe the feelings of being unaligned with our true purpose. We don’t necessarily feel depressed, angry or sad. But we do have a feeling that something is not right. It’s a gnawing sense that often sits in our stomach. Others experience it as a gentle voice encouraging us to think bigger.
On the other hand, you know if you are aligned with your true calling by how you feel at the end of the day. Are you joyous, energised, alive? Or are walking in tired, overwhelmed, turned off from your work? Do you reach for a glass of wine? Or switch on TV to view a box set?
Yet, even though people may have a intuitive sense that something isn’t right, the interesting thing is that most people don’t actually know what they do want. And rather than explore what this might mean, most people would rather stick with what they know. People then become ‘stuck’. You know because they will make excuses, go through the motions, procrastinate or wait for when they have:
- More money
- More time
- The kids leave home
- Their bonus
- More support
- Finished their current qualification(s)
Your True Calling
You know when you have discovered your true calling because you will feel differently. You will notice that your energy positively shifts, you suddenly have a wealth of ideas, you will start creating a list of actions and have an impatience to start working on them. You will want to share them with others, work on them, write about them.
Here are a number of clues that you are living your life’s true calling and purpose:
- You enter flow state (that means when you are engrossed in an activity, you lose all sense of time).
- You notice you feel happier, you laugh more easily.
- You become animated when sharing what you are up to. You notice how your positive energy impacts others.
- You notice that the things you are working on become effortless. Synchronicity is happening all around (which is a bit weird as we are so wired for blocks to our progress).
- New (and often inspiring) people start appearing in your life
- You are invited to get involved in initiatives and projects you never even new existed before
- You sleep better
How to Discover Your True Calling
There are a myriad of ways to start uncovering your true calling, your purpose and your true passions. I’ve found the best ways to get started are either:
- Finding a quite time and place to sit down with a journal and cup of coffee and reflect on the following questions
- Take myself off for a lovely long walk, ideally over the hills and ask myself these questions or talk them through with my other half
Here’s a selection of potential questions you can answer to help you on your journey:
- What things make me happy? Truly happy?
- Where this week have I been ‘lost in time’? What projects? What meetings? What people? What environment? What was I actually doing?
- What do I care about?
- Who can I give to this week?
- What do I (or did I) love learning about?
- What could I talk about for hours?
- What could I read 500 books about and still not get bored reading?
I’d like to leave you with this quote:
“For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin – real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.” Bette Howland.
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