Three Principles to Live By
Three Principles to live by in 2020
Happy New Year! Here we are at the very start of a new decade, which I’m hearing being called the ‘Roaring Twenties’. What a lovely positive description as we commence 2020. It’s always important to clarify our goals and intentions at the start of any year, particularly so we are in the driving seat of our future success. And whilst I was going to write about that, I was also reflecting on what would be a good way of living over the next 12 months. Here’s my top Three Principles to Live By in 2020.
Principle One – Stop Judging and Start Being Curious
The first principle is to stop judging others. Now this is easier said than done. (As judging seems to be a human epidemic). We have this in-built mechanism that judges other’s motives, criticises why people are doing what they are, moans about the unfairness and injustices of life. And the judging we give to ourselves is often even worse – you know that inner voice that is constantly beating us for the things we ‘should’ have done.
The answer to this perplexing outlook on life is to turn things on their head and start being curious. Being curious is simply replacing that negative talk with phrases such as ‘That’s interesting’ and ‘I wonder….’.
I tried this a few years ago when driving. I’m sure you are all too familiar with road rage. I decided one day after having quite a rant at some driver who had cut in front of me, to change my perspective. Instead of my usual barrage of angry words I chose to shift my thinking and instead and think to myself ‘I wonder whether he is late for a meeting / his wife is about to give birth, he has a cat that needs to get to the vet…..’ You get the drift. It was a massive revelation to me. I was no longer feeling emotionally frustrated, desperate to tell everyone when I got into work. Instead my curious approached significantly shifted my emotional frustration. I noticed I felt much calmer.
Try this first principle to live by. I promise you will, at least, reduce those levels of cortisol….
Principle Two – Start Saying Yes to Life
This was my mantra for 2019 and I loved it so much I am embracing it once more for 2020. If you haven’t watched The Yes Man, then I’d recommend this movie. It is based upon the true story of a man who was fed up with life. He was a moaner. About everything. And one day he decided that for any question he was asked he would say yes. It’s a funny film and the things he gets up to as a result is well worth the watch.
Now, don’t get me wrong I did not go quite this far. But rather than over analysing opportunities or requests that came my way, playing out the pros and cons of whether it was a good idea, I decided to say yes and be curious about where things may show up. Many times, I couldn’t see the ‘how’ but that didn’t matter. In my experience the how always worked itself out. Saying yes to the outcome led to a chain of events and synchronicities that were quite astonishing. Give it a go. Be brave and trust in the outcome.
Principle Three – Show Appreciation
Living from a place of appreciation is one of the most powerful ways you can attract more good into your life. As a fan of The Secret and the Law of Attraction I am a firm believer in what we think about we bring about. Wherever you focus your energy so you shall reap in return. The more grateful and appreciative you are in life, the more abundance, love and happiness comes back to you.
On April 28th 2020, it will be World Pay it Forward Day. If you’ve not heard of this initiative, it’s when people around the world focus on acts of kindness. Last year 86 countries around the world took part. I remember last year I had a day of giving chocolate out. I bought stacks of bars from the supermarket and gave them to people. One of the best was to the cashiers at a garage forecourt who were unbelievably grateful. It felt soooo good!
There are many things you can do to show appreciation. One of the simplest, is to say a heart-felt thank you. Say it as though you mean it. Look someone in their eyes and tell them how much they mean to you or what they have provided means to you.
Get creative and see what starts to show up when you start living by this principle.
There you have it. My top three principles to live by in 2020. Why not kick start your new year by having a different outlook on life. You may be surprised at how quickly changes start to take place in your life and how much more enjoyable your find your life to be. Have fun and let me know how you get on!