You in Balance
You in Balance
Many of us women are swamped by the demands of a multitude of life roles. And we often forget who we are in the middle of it all. Our self needs, our self-love, our worth, our nourishment and our energy get consumed into the busyness of life. Creating a life where you are in balance, I’ve come to realise is critical for long term happiness.
The reality is that we constantly turning our attention here, there, inwards and outwards. Aiming to please. Seeking to help others. Saying yes to requests. Offering up solutions, ideas and activities. Being a great, non-guilty Mum – find me that woman please! Being a loving and supportive wife, daughter, sister, friend, colleague. With all of this playing out in our minds, ‘Me’ goes right down the list.
I’ve come to learn, and quite starkly in the past few months, that leaders have to show up in the world with great courage, presence and self-love. This does not mean we become arrogant and self–centred or driven by our ego. It means showing up ‘with our big girl pants on’ – you’ve heard me share that one before! There are so many demands on leaders that we cannot keep pace with it all – it’s about showing up time and time again as our best selves.
Where do you start?
Creating you in balance, starts with being super proud of you, loving all aspects of you, being aligned with what’s important, what matters and not needing validation from elsewhere. Putting ‘you’ at the heart of your life. Knowing what you stand for, showing up in all those roles as a beautiful, intelligent, caring woman. And knowing that to be true from the inside out. This confidence and knowledge is what starts to help us build true resilience. We get clear on what our bodies and minds need to keep us in peak physical shape. We create the right supportive network around us. We know what we stand for and we create a wonderful presence when we walk into a room.
Once we have that level of confidence and aliveness, the rest of our lives will flow naturally. We get clear on the roles we want to play. And we play them to the fullest. We say no with love. We create boundaries that serve us first. We use our feminine power to give us strength. We connect to those that nourish us. We play roles where we can serve and help us to feel ever more alive and not because we feel we ‘should’.
It’s not always easy to show up in this way. We create roles in life that are often out of kilter with who we are. How do you know if you have unhelpful life roles? That’s easy. You won’t feel right. Your energy will be low. You will find yourself being critical of self and of others. You will judge others. You’ll share your judgements or moan about what is wrong. If any aspect of your life does not feel right, then you have a choice. You can change the way you react to what is going on or you can change the environment in which you are in.
Letting go is a natural process but a tough one. Shedding the layers of our old selves to allow the more authentic us shine through demands courage and resourcefulness. There are many different strategies you can deploy. Each of us is unique. There is no one size fits all. Over the years I’ve worked with a wealth of experts in their field, from alternative therapies to spiritual guides, from business mentors to masterminds. All of them showing up at the right time and me being brave enough to reach out and commit.
I realised many years ago, that I could no longer become the leader I wanted to be by doing what I’d always done. I need a strong support network. And that’s what the WLA is about too. Helping provide a loving community of women who are all on unique journeys through life seeking enrichment and encouragement to achieve their goals, well-being and happiness.
We have a new event happening on 12th July 2019. It’s called ‘You in Balance’. The day is focused on uncovering the roles you play in life, how you show up and what you need to build a stronger core. By having that core, your magic and your presence will start to shine through to others. You’ll feel happier in work. You’ll create more time in the day. You will start to achieve much stronger engagement from those that work with you.
Interested? Watch this space for more details of our event. For now, keep Friday 12th July free. We’d love to help you explore getting you back in balance.